When Life Isn’t Fair


By Ginger Ciminello

Dear Ginger,
School hasn’t been going very well. I have a teacher who treats me differently from all the other kids in my class. My mom, dad and others have talked to her. I just wish Jesus would come in her heart and show her the right way to treat me. What should I do to help me be stronger around her when my teacher hurts my feelings? –A

Dear A,

I am so, so sorry about the situation with your teacher. My heart hurts for you. It sounds like you and your parents have done everything in your power to fix the situation… and yet, it’s still broken.

What do we do when we are being treated poorly or unfairly? Let’s see what the Bible has to say.

“Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.” James 1:2-4, NLT 

“Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will bless you for it.” 1 Peter 3:9, NLT

Over and over the Bible calls us to love others even when the situation isn’t fair.

“Pray for those who hurt you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, offer the other cheek also. If someone demands your coat, offer your shirt also.” Luke 6:28-29, NLT

Praying for people who hurt our feelings is one of the deepest forms of love, because it means that you have to really want something good happen to them. The prayer Jesus has in mind here is always for their good. He is not talking about us praying that those people would be run over by a truck. He’s not talking about praying for lightening to take them out. We are to pray that their hearts and ours be softened, be changed, be reconciled. He wants us to head to the root of the problem, not just the symptoms.

For example, if I stay up late and don’t get enough sleep I end up getting a headache around one in the afternoon and I can be irritable for the rest of the day. But if all I do is take painkillers or drink caffeine, I’m only dealing with the symptoms. What I really need to do is get off Facebook and go to bed earlier, because that will eliminate my tiredness. That’s what prayer does to whatever problem we are having with someone. The best thing we can do is pray for the people who have hurt us. Praying for your them will actually keep you from being destroyed by bitterness and anger.

Jesus is calling us not just to do good things for those rough relationships, like greeting them and opening the door for them; He is also calling us to WANT their best, and to express those wants in prayers when the enemy is nowhere around. We are to love them, bless them, and pray for them.

I don’t know why your teacher is being hurtful. But I do know that God loves you both so much. Perhaps God has put you in the situation just to show her love. Have you tried praying for her? Maybe pray each morning before you go to school that God would give you the strength to love her, and that God would open her eyes and heart. I know it seems like a tall order, but I know the freedom that prayer can bring from personal experience.

I’ll be praying for your situation, A… that God would give you courage, peace, and comfort each day.

“Yet I am not ashamed, because I know whom I have believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day.” 2 Timothy 1:12, NIV

Question: What advice would you give to A?



Joy Comes in the Morning

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By Nancy Bentz

This month’s dual contributor post for Whatever Girls and Ishshah’s Story is especially close to my heart for I have a new grandchild – a beautiful baby boy named Cody. You can ‘meet’ him and his mama in Joy Comes in the Morning.

Beyond my personal bits and pieces in the story, there is a message of bringing forth life that pertains to all of us…whether expectant mothers or expectant hearts.

Please join me and a whole lot of other ishshahs (women) who hunger after a heart like God’s, over at Ishshah’s Story.

Joy Comes in the Morning excerpt:

As anyone knows who has been or seen a pregnant woman (pretty much all of us!), the fresh seed takes time to become fashioned, woven together and to grow. All that takes place before the new life has even yet seen the light of day! 

In my own journey, I have come to realize that God does His best and deepest work under cover of dark.

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With a full and grateful heart ~ Nancy

You may learn more about my contributor collaboration with Ishshah’s Story and Whatever Girls here.

Don’t Live In The Moment

By Madi Cowell

What keeps you (personally) pushing every single day? This may sound like a simple question but when you stop and think you may realize a lot.

I believe we are all taught that people should never be what fill us up completely, but how much do we really emphasize that concept? Sometimes we don’t see how much pressure we are applying to a relationships/friendships with someone until they’re gone, but by then it’s to late to take back how much we have invested.

So how do we fix this problem? It’s hard when you’re in a moment of silence, or going through a rough time to run to something you cannot see, but what if you did? When we stop holding people to so many expectations such as filling up what is empty within us, pressure is released. Does this mean you will immediately feel better? No. No one likes not having anyone to run to, but maybe these times are needed as a wake up call to remind us of WHO we should be running to. As girls we can go to many other things to make us feel temporarily happy: food, beauty, boys, working out, etc. Not only are these things easy because they’re tangible, but also because it’s what we are told is “normal” and “important” everyday through our peers and society. The problem with that list is all those things are very fleeting. Such a great and simple verse that applies so well here is Psalms 31:30, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a women who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

We can’t get so wrapped up in the little things that will be gone tomorrow. Instead let us, let God make even larger imprints on our lives that will out live this earth, and have an everlasting impact on not only us but also the others around. It takes women of bravery to have full faith and trust in the unknown, knowing that her Father has got her best in mind.

Madi's Bio I know for me each and every day I am both eager but frightened to give God all the control. I know the more I release to him, truly the more I don’t have to worry about, but getting to that mind set is where the fright can come into play. Help yourself out by constantly absorbing yourself in the truth of Who and what is important everyday, and not just in the moment.

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