What is a Whatever Girl?

A Whatever Girl is a girl who loves Jesus and knows that God has an amazing plan for her life.

She is a bright light who stands out in a crowd – she doesn’t worry about fitting in.

She is intentional about pursuing God’s plan for her life and growing her relationship with Jesus whenever, wherever and by doing whatever it takes!

She values whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, and anything that is excellent or praiseworthy.

Are YOU a Whatever Girl? Want the world to know you’re a Whatever Girl?

We have partnered with The Rusted Chain on a custom designed, very special necklace for Whatever Girls of all ages, all over the world!

Here is an exclusive, sneak peek at the Whatever Girl necklace:


This necklace will be available February 1st in the Rusted Chain Store.  For every purchase of this necklace, The Rusted Chain donates 10% to the Whatever Girls ministry.

Want to win a Whatever Girl Necklace? We are giving away a necklace at our Whatever Girls Virtual Open House on Tuesday, February 5.  In the meantime, check out The Rusted Chain on Facebook and tell them the Whatever Girls sent you. You will LOVE them!

Everyone is invited to our Facebook Party. Click here for more information.

We hope you will come to our open house and invite your friends. There have been a lot of exciting things going on behind the scenes at Whatever Girls and we can’t wait to share them with you.

You’ll have a chance to meet our contributing writers, learn more about our ministry and our spring 2014 conference and have a chance to win great prizes!

We look forward to hanging out with you at our open house on the 5th!!

Cell Phone Usage Contract for Teens

Most kids I know have a cell phone. We got one for our daughter when she was in the fourth grade for emergencies and to replace our landline. She was responsible for getting herself off to school and letting herself into the house after school because my husband and I worked outside the home. At first she only used the phone to check in with me before and after school.  But, as her friends started getting phones too, things changed.

I’m what you might call a “hands on parent”. I don’t let my daughter spend time with just anyone and I like to know her friends and her friend’s parents. Cell phones bring all sorts of access and influence into our lives.

As our daughter got older and was spending more time on her phone- including with kids I hadn’t yet met, it became apparent that we needed to have some sort of agreement in place. I came up with the following cell phone usage contract that was signed by my husband and me, and our daughter. We wanted her to know having a cell phone was a big responsibility and privilege and we are serious about enforcing rules.

Cell Phone Usage Contract

You have been given the use of a cell phone as a privilege and you are responsible for taking care of it.  You must only use the phone as highlighted below.  Failure to follow the rules set forth will result in immediate loss of the phone for a period of time determined appropriate by Mom and Dad.

  • This is not your phone.  It’s Mom and Dad’s phone that they are letting you use as a privilege because you have demonstrated enough responsibility to use it.
  • The cell phone is for texting and talking only.
  • No pictures are to be sent or received.  (If pictures are received you tell the sender you are not allowed to receive pictures.)
  • No videos can be sent or received.  (If videos are received you tell the sender you are not allowed to receive videos.)
  • No forwarding of jokes or messages.
  • No gossip.  You will not talk about other people or engage in harmful or mean conversations about others either by text or when talking on the phone.
  • You will not erase messages- your texts and call history will be checked regularly.
  • The phone CANNOT be used before school.
  • The phone may be taken to school to communicate with Mom and Dad about schedule changes or for emergencies, but MUST BE OFF during the day.
  • You will give the phone to Mom right after school each day.
  • The phone CANNOT be used after school until chores and homework are completed to Mom & Dad’s satisfaction.
  • You will not download apps without Mom or Dad’s permission.
  • The phone must be turned in by 9PM each night.
  • No talking to/texting with boys without Mom or Dad’s prior approval EACH TIME.
  • We expect you to earn A’s and B’s in school. If your grades go below this, you may lose your phone privileges until your grades have gone back up.

I understand it is a privilege to have a phone to use.  I have read and understand and agree to follow each rule.  Failure to follow any of these rules completely or partially will result in the surrendering of the phone for the length of time deemed appropriate by Mom and Dad.


Child Signature:_________________________ Date:___________________

Parent Signature:_________________________ Date:___________________

Parent Signature:_________________________ Date:___________________

The most important thing we can do as parents is to be consistent with our rules.

I try to check my daughter’s phone regularly, but I’d be lying if I didn’t tell you I forget sometimes. This helps her stay on track and it also gives me some insight into her and her friends’ lives.


Does your teen have a phone? Do you have any rules or even a contract in place? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.




When Martha’s Evil Twin Comes to Visit

I enjoy having friends in our home for dinner and to just hang out and visit.  About a year ago we started a tradition of having dinner with our life group friends twice a month before we started whatever study we were doing at the time. The great thing about this group is that we have been friends for around six years. They have seen it all and I don’t feel like my house or I have to look “perfect” before they arrive.

UntitledThis past week I decided on a simple dinner menu that didn’t require a trip to the store- my favorite kind.  Chicken fajitas were on the menu that night. I put some chicken in the crockpot that morning and went on with my day.

Thirty minutes before our friends arrived, I started getting things ready for our simple dinner. Regretting my decision not to make a dessert, I gave my daughter the assignment of making chocolate chip cookies while I chopped bell peppers and sliced tomatoes and black olives.

Join me over at The M.O.M. Initiative for the rest of this post by clicking here.

Am I Messing Up As a Mom?

By Erin

It seems like my daughter has turned into a young woman overnight. Any day now I’ll wake up and find that she has surpassed my 5’4 frame. Her deep brown hair falls against her ivory cheeks and her green eyes sparkle and dance when she laughs.  And her freckles?  I love them. I tell her she reminds me of a doll I used to play with, Strawberry Shortcake.

I’m over at More to Be today. I’d love to have you click here and join me for the rest of this post.

What Would You Do? (Free Resource)

My motto is “have a plan before you need one”. I have found that discussing things with my kids before they come up prepares them and gives them an opportunity to consider the possible consequences their actions may have. It’s good life training, too.

What Would You Do ButtonWe have a special resource to share with you today. I created the “What Would You Do” game a couple of years ago for my daughter and her friends.  One night at a Whatever Girl meeting, moms and daughters sat around in my living room and played this scenario based game. The girls were divided into teams (not necessary) and we had lots of fun and great discussions.

This resource is our free gift to you. The questions touch on dating, friendships, honoring parents, respecting the law, drama and several other issues teens face.

Sample question:

“You’re on Facebook and you see a horrible rumor has started about one of your friends on a mutual friends’ Facebook wall.  A ton have people have already commented and are spreading the rumor on their walls.  You know this is a lie and worry how this will make your friend feel.  What would you do?”
We hope it will inspire you to sit down and talk with your kids and help set the stage for future conversations with your kids.

You can simply click here to download this free resource, “What Would You Do”.

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