I would give just about anything for teen girls to understand how valuable they are on their own. As in; without that guy, without that brand of clothing, without that certain group of friends, without that make-up their mom won’t let them wear yet, and without everything else that they think validates them and brings them significance among their peers and as they walk through the halls at school.
Girls are giving away pieces of their innocence and a precious time in their lives they can never get back by believing they need to meet someone else’s standards. It’s not surprising; the media, television shows, magazines and movies are all shooting flaming arrows at our girls that pierce their very hearts and spirits with these toxic messages.
Girls, please don’t worry about what that guy thinks of you. At this age, he’s not even remotely capable of giving you the kind of fulfilling relationship your heart yearns for. Right now he’s confused and feeling awkward about himself, even if it seems like he has it all together. Take this time to pray for your future spouse and thank God that He has given you an opportunity to bypass the drama and heartache so many of your friends will experience. God’s plan for you is far better than anything you can imagine. Will you trust Him? Will you be patient?
What kind of friends are you surrounding yourself with? Do they know you? Really know you? Do they build you up or tear you down? Does being friends with them bring you closer to God, or does He get put on the back burner? Do you sneak around behind your parent’s back with these friends, or is following rules and respecting adults important to your friends, too?
You are beautiful and precious just as you are. The creator of the universe designed you and has given you a purpose that only you can fulfill. The cute boy, designer clothes, latest I-Pod and cool friends don’t define you-God does. And until that sinks in and becomes the most important thing to you, you will be spinning your wheels in search of true joy and fulfillment that only He can give.
Take away: Jeremiah 29:11 and Psalm 139:13-16. Read these verses and thank God for His love and perfect plan for your life. Memorize these verses and tuck them into your heart so that when you need a reminder of how much God loves you and your worth, you only need to look as far as your heart.
Girls: Do you pray for your future husband?
Moms: Do you pray for your future son in law?