Something Brand New for Moms and Daughters!

Whatever Girls is launching “Whatever Girls Clubs” in August, just in time for the start of the new school year!

The teen years can be like walking a tightrope. There are so many issues that can cause teen girls to stumble and fall. It’s even harder for a Christian girl trying to stay true to her values when peer pressure can be so intense!

That’s where Whatever Girls Clubs come in!

When my daughter, Grace, started middle school in 2009, I didn’t want to just sit back and hope that she wouldn’t give in to the peer pressures of her teen years, so, I started Whatever Girls. We started out as a club for moms and daughters to get together, study the Bible, and talk about and prepare our daughters for the issues they may encounter throughout their middle school and high school years. Now, we have several clubs like ours across the United States, host online Bible studies, have a writing and speaking team, host local events for moms, daughters, and dads, and reach thousands of people around the world every day on social media.

Whatever Girls Clubs:

  • Are for middle school to high school age girls and their moms
  • Are Biblically based
  • Are led by mothers
  • Are a place for girls to grow in their faith and relationship with Jesus Christ
  • Equip girls to think on, and exemplify the pillars of Philippians 4:8 “whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy”. (This is where we get our name, “Whatever Girls”)
  • Are a safe place to ask questions and learn about: peer pressure, dating, friendships, sex, Biblical feminism, drug and alcohol use, Internet and social media safety, sex trafficking, bullying, and more.
  • Strengthen mother-daughter bonds
  • Are a place to develop lasting friendships

The nationwide launching of our clubs is a grass roots movement that provides girls with an alternative to what the world offers, and keeps moms involved along the way. Our goal is to have at least one Whatever Girls Club in each state by the end of 2017.

We invite YOU to join our movement in a few ways:

In the next month we are completing the development of leader kits for new Whatever Girls clubs, participating in community events to share about our clubs, and doing a lot of behind the scenes work to prepare for the response to our launch.

-Start a Whatever Girls Club or join a Whatever Girls Club in your area. Email us HERE for more information. For those wanting to start a club, we are with you every step of the way from getting you started to supporting you along the way.

-Join our launch team. You will play a vital role in helping us ensure teen girls and moms all over America learns about the invitation to start or join a club. Click HERE to apply.

-Help us raise $5,000 between now and July 15th so we can: print our leader guides, purchase leader kit supplies, enhance our website, purchase marketing materials and supplies, and cover advertising costs.

You can help us launch our vision into all 50 states by the end of 2017 by making a tax deductible investment of any amount.

  • We invite you to partner with us by sponsoring a Whatever Girls Leader Kit at $30
  • Giving a gift in any amount
  • Partner with us monthly with a reoccurring gift of any amount



To give by check, you may send your gift to:

Whatever Girls
P.O. Box 13191
Spokane WA 99213


Thank you for helping us change the world, one Whatever Girl at a time!

Mother’s Day: When You Don’t Feel Deserving of Being Celebrated

By Erin Bishop

We were walking around Pier One and I gave him permission to go off and explore on his own. I was looking for something, and he was getting bored, being a 13-year-old boy.

He found me sniffing candles a few minutes later. “Mama, come here, I want to show you something!”

I followed him past the wind chimes, outdoor wreaths, and outdoor furniture, until he stopped at the lamps.

“I think I found what I want to get you for Mother’s Day, Mama!” he proclaimed, as he proudly pointed to a lamp. A lamp I never in a million years, well, it’s the thought that counts, right?

“Wow! That is quite a lamp, buddy! You are so good to me, thank you. You know, I actually don’t need a new lamp right now. You know what I’d really love for Mother’s Day? Time with you. And a hug.”

He playfully lowered his shoulders, pretending to be defeated. But was he pretending? There I go again, saying the wrong thing to one of my kids.

“Actually, I don’t even need a Mother’s Day gift. Time with you really is the best gift. But if you were to do a gift, a gift card to somewhere would be nice. You know, so I could shop and use coupons?” Ever the control freak, that’s me.

He wasn’t moved by my words, and he walked off towards the vases, pretending to be interested. Awesome job, mom.

As the week went on, Mother’s Day was everywhere. All the stores I visited had big displays front and center filled with “all the things mom needs to feel special and appreciated”. Sponsored Facebook ads flooded my newsfeed with contests for massages, facials, and special brunch offerings for mom.

I don’t need, or deserve, any of that stuff, I told myself.

I’ve never been big about celebrating myself. Especially as a mom.

When I think of my early days as a single mom to my little girl, I don’t think of the loving, devoted, and determined mother that I know I was. I think about all the times I selfishly put my social life above time with her.

I remember all the times a crying little girl looked up at her mommy who couldn’t handle the stress of the morning routine and took it out on her innocent little girl. Barking orders like a drill sergeant that no child could measure up to.

Years of major depression and anxiety, chronic fatigue, and more than a little shame from those afflictions, have stolen so much of my life and the lives of my children.

I think about all the times I said “maybe later”, “mommy doesn’t feel good right now”, or “I need to take a nap”, my heart breaking for disappointing my kids.

The times my husband would come home from a long day at work, and I’d have nothing to show for, often sitting in the same place as he left me, hours before.

I just couldn’t do it. Life. It was hard. And I was so tired. And sleep was my escape.

I’ve always measured my shortcomings by the Proverbs 31 woman yardstick, while relating better to the less popular Proverbs 14:1 woman, who, with her own hands tears her house down.

I felt as though I was wrapped up in a tight cocoon, tucked in so tightly by layers of shame, regret, sadness, anger, fear, and hope, yes, even hope.

Hope is the birthplace of victory. And victory was coming.

He was preparing me. He makes all things new.

He has all the answers, and even more grace.

He comforts those who mourn. I have known mourning, and I know His comfort.

When it felt like there was no way out of the dark, He made a way for me in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. (Isaiah 43:19)

He tells us if we put on a garment of praise, it will wash away our despair. And wash it away, He has.

So for me, Mother’s Day is not a celebration of the mother I am, it’s about the mother I get to be to my children. The two precious lives God birthed inside of me, whose hearts I have been entrusted. It’s the privilege of feeling the kind of love that nothing else comes close to. It’s knowing that sometimes I am the only person in a world of billions that can meet the needs of my child in any given moment.

Mother’s Day is my day to celebrate being a mom.

Prayers and Declarations for Our Daughters (May 2017)


We are pleased to provide you with a FREE May 2017 “prayers and declarations for our daughters” calendar.

Click HERE to download your FREE copy now.
Know that when you pray and declare these things over your daughter, we are joining you, and God hears our prayers!

Are you part of the Whatever Girls Moms Prayer Community?

You can join our private prayer group community for moms of daughters where you will receive encouragement and prayer. Simply click to join! We’ll be waiting for you.

Your Prince Will Come

By Kim Chaffin

In a cottage in the woods as Snow White bakes a pie, the evil queen comes knocking at the door dressed as an old lady. “All alone, my pet? The little men are not here?” asks the evil queen. Poor Snow White is unaware of the evil she is about to let into her home. Once inside the cottage, the evil queen takes advantage of her vulnerability with the promise that her wishes will come true. All she has to do is bite into the apple. One small bite was all it would take. The beautiful apple and the promise made by the evil queen are enough temptation for Snow White to take a bite.

That one small bite would put Snow White into a deep sleep and only a kiss from her one true love, the prince, could bring her out of the sleep. Thankfully for Snow White, it is just a fairy tale and her prince does come to rescue her. They live happily ever after and the queen’s evil plans are thwarted.

We can learn a lesson from Snow White. Like the evil queen who looked for a time when Snow White was alone and vulnerable, the enemy looks for our guard to be down. Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8 (NIV)

The enemy waits for the right moment like the evil queen did and he makes his move. Like the evil queen used an apple to tempt Snow White, he used an apple to tempt Eve and he will use all kinds of things to tempt you.

Snow White took a bite out of the apple because she wished for love. She longed for the day her prince would come. The enemy is a master at using the same trick. “You want love? If you go just a little further with the guy you like, he will love you.” The enemy is cunning, “Come on, just a little further and he will love you. I promise it will be okay. Besides, everyone does it.”

That one bite may taste good at first and you might even take another. Whether it is one bite or the whole apple, you will soon find out it is not at all what he promised. Regret, heartache, and often a sense of shame are what you receive when you bite into the apple of temptation.

Lucky for us, we have a real prince, not like the make-believe ones in the Disney movies. He is the Prince of Peace, also known as the King of kings. His love for you is so great that He gave up His own life for you. His name is Jesus. When you call on Him and ask Him for help, He will rescue you from whatever false promise you have bitten into. There will be no judgment from Him, just love and forgiveness.

If you have been tempted by one of the enemy’s lies, please do not let another day pass allowing him to have a hold on you. Your prince, Jesus, will come if you pray and ask Him to forgive you for your choices.

Here is a prayer you can pray:

Jesus, my guard was down and I believed a lie of the enemy. My choice to _________________has left me feeling ______________. I don’t want to go on like this anymore. Please forgive me, Jesus, and help me to walk in Your ways. I need You, Jesus. Amen.

Have you downloaded your free copy of our April “prayers and declarations” calendar? Click the image below to download.

Prayers and Declarations for Our Daughters (April 2017)

We are pleased to provide you with a FREE March 2017 “prayers and declarations for our daughters” calendar.

Click HERE to download your FREE copy now.

Know that when you pray and declare these things over your daughter, we are joining you, and God hears our prayers!

 

11 Driving Safety Tips That Could Save Your Teen’s Life

By Erin Bishop

My car has a helpful feature that tells me how many miles of gas I have left before I run out. It’s basically a procrastination gauge. Last week I really pushed the limits and got down to one (1) mile of gas left in the tank before I filled up.

I always dread the inconvenience of running out of gas. Having to call someone for help, or push my car to the gas station. But it wasn’t until I posted a picture of my gas gauge on Facebook about almost running out of gas that my perspective changed. Robin Ball, owner of local company Sharp Shooting Indoor Range and Gun Shop and safety expert here in Spokane, saw my post and chimed in with some safety tips I didn’t consider, and you need to know about.

Robin said we should all consider our gas tank empty at HALF. If you run out of gas, you are vulnerable to natural disasters, predators, car problems, and more, on the side of the road.

Just DAYS after Robin shared these safety tips with me, a tragic story broke in our community. A woman ran out of gas at night and she began walking the long distance towards a motel her friend was staying at. A man in a car stopped her and offered her a ride. She accepted.

The woman said the man started driving but wouldn’t tell her where he was going. He grabbed her phone and threw it in the backseat, telling her it was “the last call she would ever make.”

The woman was ordered to remove her clothing and he drove to a secluded area and to a structure. Once inside the structure, he demanded she remove her clothing as he pointed a gun at her. She was sexually assaulted, and fortunately, got away. The suspect remains at large.

Here are 11 safety tips drivers of all ages can implement right now:

  1. Do not let your gas tank get below half full. If you run out of gas you make yourself vulnerable to natural disasters, predators, car problems, and more.
  2. Have your keys in hand before you leave your home, school, or other building to go to your car. Walk with purpose and focus to your car. Predators are looking for someone vulnerable.
  3. Do NOT be talking on your cell phone, texting, or checking social media as you walk to your car. Predators are looking for someone distracted. DO bring your charged phone and a charger in case you need to call for help. This should go without saying, but do not talk on your phone, text, check social media, or take pictures when you are driving.
  4. Look in the back seat for carjackers before entering your car. Park in well lit and populated areas. Make sure you keep your car locked at all times. Car jackers can break into your car and crouch in the back of your car or hide under items in the back seat.
  5. Lock your doors the moment you get into your car. Carjackers often approach cars and unlock the doors, forcing the driver out of the car, or, into another seat.
  6. Fasten your seatbelt and require your passengers to wear their seatbelt.
  7. Memorize your license plate number, the color, year, make and model of your car. There may come a time where you need to let police know how to identity your car.
  8. If you think you are being followed, go through a drive thru window and order something inexpensive. People normally won’t follow you to a public place. If you are followed into the drive thru, tell the employee to call the police without making a scene. You can also make four right turns if you think you are being followed. If the car continues to follow you, call 911 and drive to the nearest police station or a well-lit public place. Do NOT go to your place of employment, your home, or any other place you frequent.
  9. Be aware of your surroundings. Learn landmarks, street names, how to tell directions, and where east and west, and north and south start and end in your city. You may have to give directions to your location.
  10. Emergency items to keep in your car: flashlight and extra batteries, blanket, emergency flares, first aid kit, bottled water, non-perishable snacks, jumper cables, rain ponchos, tarp, and small fire extinguisher.
  11. Don’t stop to help people on the side of the road, but do call for help. Unfortunately, some predators-even women-pretend to be broken down and prey upon good Samaritans. Better to be safe than sorry.

What tips would you add to our list?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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