Three Ways to Help Your Kids Choose Good Friends

3 WaysHave you ever had to wipe the tears from your child’s face after someone hurt their feelings? It breaks my mamas heart when someone has been mean to my kids. I want to make the pain go away and protect their heart from ever getting hurt again.

 

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Understanding Her

by Jenifer Metzger 

Our girls are changing daily.  They are growing from our sweet little pixie faced princesses to young ladies with ideas and thoughts of their own.  I look at my girls, eleven and fourteen, and see traces of the precious girls in pigtails and bows changing to features of the coming womanhood.

Jenifer'sAlong with these changes come new attitudes.  Girls learning who they are and what they want.  Girls struggling to find independence, yet a little piece of their heart not quite ready for it.  No matter how much we try to avoid it, soon comes the rolling eyes, head shakes and sometimes sassy attitudes.

We still deeply love our little girl but struggle with knowing how to connect with this new young lady.  We know what she is going through, after all, we were there once too.  We know how she is feeling.  We understand her more than she realizes.  We just have to learn how to show her that we understand.

How can we show her that we love her and understand her?  How can we truly understand her?

  1. Pray for her daily.  Pray for her changing body, mind and spirit.  Pray that she keeps her focus on God and Him alone.
  2. Let her know you are praying for her.  Tell her with your words.  Leave a note on her bathroom mirror.  Send her a text.  Let her know that you are still her praying mom.
  3. Schedule regular dates with your daughter.  It may just be going out for an ice cream cone, taking a walk around the block or do-it-yourself mani/pedis at home with the rest of the family out.  It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money.
  4. Take an interest in what she loves.  If your daughter is into photography, take her on a photography hike around a local park.  If she loves tennis, ask her to play with you.  Taking up an activity she already loves will show her you are paying attention to what she likes and cares about.
  5. When she is having an emotional day {hey, we all have them!}, show her grace.  Speak to her in love.  Think of the things that may calm her, like a nap or walk, and give her that time.
  6. Spend time in the quiet of her bedroom just hanging out and talking.  Be sure to spend just as much time, if not more, listening than you do talking.  Let her pour her heart out to you without fear of being judged or disciplined.
  7. Laugh with her.  Don’t take everything so serious all the time.  Enjoy life and enjoy these years with your daughter.
  8. Always be a listening ear.  Be available to her and make sure she knows you are.  Listen to her, not just to the words she says, but to her heart.

These teenage years are hard enough on a young girl.  As moms, let’s show our daughters that we really do love them and understand what they are going through.  Make these years beautiful and enjoy them.

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(in)Couraging Moms of Teens

Moms of tweens and teens, are you feeling overwhelmed? Tired? Frustrated? Confused?

Do you feel like you don’t have what it takes to parent your DAUGHTER or SON through these adolescent years?

You are not alone. But chances are that you might feel that way, as you run around town with your busy teen, not stopping long enough to connect with another frazzled mom in an authentic way. The problem is that without community around us, reminding us of the truth of who really are in Christ, we forget that in Him we have everything we need to parent with wisdom, grace, humility, gentleness, patience, and love. We also forget that the Father has made us to need each other as we navigate through these parenting days. He has made us to be His hands and feet to one another, as we partner with Him in the journey of motherhood.

 

We need each other and that is why I’m excited to invite you,
to join (in)Couraging
Moms of Teens,
a closed Facebook group sponsored by Dayspring through incourage.me,
which seeks to foster a community of hope-filled Biblical encouragement*

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Would you like to join this group?

Our group kicks off on February 12 and runs through April 28th. All you have to do to join this Closed Facebook group is complete this short form, which will help us get to know you and ensures you know what to expect. Following submission of your form, you’ll receive a confirmation email with a link to the Facebook group. Click that link and ask to join! One of the leaders will accept you as soon as possible.

Our group is limited to 100 women, so be sure to complete this short form right away.

Meet your leaders.

Will you pull up a chair and get to know us a bit?

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Elisa is a life coach, mentor, and speaker passionate about inspiring authentic life change in women for the sake of the next generation. She leads More to Be, a ministry committed to impacting teens with the truth and inspiring Christian women to mentor. She is also the author of Impact My Life: Biblical Mentoring Simplified. As a trained and certified Biblical life coach, Elisa encourages women to navigate through life’s challenges with a new perspective. She considers her first calling is as wife to Stephen and mother to her house-full of children, both those she’s birth and the ones God has creatively brought into her family. Connect with Elisa at www.moretobe.com |elisapulliam.com | twitter @elisapulliam

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jenniferallumecrop333

Jennifer, voice finder and wife of a heart-warrior, in N. California, mothers three children and leads My Girls, a group where women gather to remember the truth of their identity, in God’s eyes. A former high school teacher with a heart for helping teenagers discover and claim their identity and voice, she delights engaging in community with other moms who seek God’s truth and desire their children to live in the confidence of who {and Whose} they are. You can find Jennifer writing at You Are My Girls and connecting on Facebook at You are My Girls Community and Twitter.

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lynn

Lynn is a Proverbs 31 Ministries’ speaker and author whose passion is helping moms become wise women who raise wiser daughters. Lynn is also the author of His Revolutionary Love, a book that helps girls develop a higher self-esteem by discovering Christ’s life-altering love. She writes articles for popular magazines including, Susie Mag, Focus on the Family’s Thriving Family, and the Proverbs 31′s daily devotions. Lynn and her husband, Greg, have been married for over 25 years and are the parents of three, and they reside in North Carolina. You can find Lynn online at Lynncowell.com.

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erin

Erin is the founder and president of the Whatever Girls Ministry. The Whatever Girls mission is “intentional moms and intentional daughters.” They strive to empower teen girls to choose God’s best for their lives by exemplifying the pillars of Philippians 4:8. Erin lives in Washington State with her husband and their two children. You can find Erin at Whatever Girls Ministry.

When Ms. Fix it Gets it Wrong

By: Debra Weiss

“So Sarai said to Abram, ‘The LORD has prevented me from having children. Go and sleep with my servant. Perhaps I can have children through her.’ And Abram agreed with Sarai’s proposal.” – Genesis 16:2 (NLT)

When Ms Fix it Gets it wrongA toilet in our house had developed a leak. Since my family had a home repairs book on hand, we bought the items to stop the leak and decided to tackle the job ourselves. Everything seemed easy until three hours had passed. Now, I was hot and tired. My back ached and my “girl power” spirit was sapped.

The problem was small white piece that was supposed to attach to the water pipe. I figured if we just cut the water pipe a smidge, we could get the new piece to slide on. I practically beamed as I explained my plan to my family. Call me “Ms. Fix-It”.

It took around an hour but finally, the water pipe had been cut to the right size. We slid the new piece on and anxiously flushed.

Water soaked the tile, the walls, and my sister. My solution hadn’t solved anything. In fact, it’d made a bigger mess.

Sarai could probably relate. God had already promised her husband a child but Sarai had a “Ms. Fix-It” moment. She told her husband to sleep with her servant. If their union resulted in pregnancy, then Sarai would take the child as her own. It was an old school method of surrogacy.

But Sarai’s ‘fix’ cost her more than it helped. It caused tension in her marriage, tension with her servant, and ultimately, tension between nations.

As women, we’re often tempted to play “Ms. Fix-It” in our lives and the lives of others. Maybe you smoothed over an argument between your co-workers by stretching the truth just a tad.

Maybe you thought if you could just change your husband’s annoying habit, he would be a better person. Maybe you let something “slip” about the head of the church nursery in the hopes of getting her removed from her position.

The problem isn’t our desire to change things for the better or spare someone’s feelings. The problem comes when we go about it the wrong way.

Sure, you can cut the water line but you can also take a moment to pray for wisdom and seek godly counsel. If I’d only take a moment to make a quick call to a family friend, my water disaster could have been avoided.

So, now instead of “Ms. Fix-It”, call me “Ms. Prayed-About-It”.

Dear God, Sometimes, I get it wrong. I choose to respond to a situation in my wisdom and mess things up. I ask for forgiveness. Please help me to pause and seek You before responding to the people and events around me. Thank You for Your extravagant grace. In Jesus’ name, Amen. 

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